• Being in grief, it turns out, is not unlike being in love.
    In both states, the imagination's entirely occupied with one person. The beloved dwells at the heart of the world, and becomes a Rome: the roads of feeling all lead to him, all proceed from him. Everything that touches us seems to relate back to that center: there is no other emotional life, no place outside the universe of feeling centered on its pivotal figure.

    Mark Doty (1996). “Heaven's Coast: A Memoir”, Harpercollins