Lewis B. Smedes Quotes About Pain

Quotes about: Pain

• Vengeance is having a videotape planted in your soul that cannot be turned off. It plays the painful scene over and over again inside your mind...And each time it plays you feel the clap of pain again...Forgiving turns off the videotape of pained memory Forgiving sets you free.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Forgiveness, Pain, Memories

• Once we have forgiven, however, we get a new freedom to forget. This time forgetting is a sign of health; it is not a trick to avoid spiritual surgery. We can forget because we have been healed. But even if it is easier to forget after we forgive, we should not make forgetting a test of our forgiving. The test of forgiving lies with healing the lingering pain of the past, not with forgetting the past has ever happened.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Spiritual, Pain, Lying

• You and I were created for joy, and if we miss it we miss the reason for our existence. If our joy is honest joy, it must somehow be congruous with human tragedy. This is the test of joy's integrity. It is compatible with pain. Only the heart that hurts has a right to joy.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Hurt, Pain, Integrity

• The problem with revenge is that it never evens the score. It ties both the injured and the injurer to an escalator of pain. Both are stuck on the escalator as long as parity is demanded, and the escalator never stops.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Pain, Revenge, Ties

  "Why Charging People With Homicide For Overdose Deaths Is Revenge And Not Justice" by Brooke M. Feldman, www.huffingtonpost.com. November 12, 2017.

• The problem with revenge is that it never gets what it wants; it never evens the score. Fairness never comes. The chain reaction set off by every act of vengeance always takes its unhindered course. It ties both the injured and the injurer to an escalator of pain...Why do family feuds go on and on?...the reason is simple: no two people, no two families, ever weigh pain on the same scale.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Forgiveness, Pain, Revenge

• I worry about fast forgivers. They tend to forgive quickly in order to avoid their pain. Or they forgive fast in order to get an advantage over the people they forgive. And their instant forgiving only makes things worse... People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive... There is a right moment to forgive. We cannot predict it in advance; we can only get ourselves ready for it when it arrives... Don't do it quickly, but don't wait too long.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Forgiveness, Pain, Order

• The only way to heal the pain which will not heal itself is to forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness heals the memory's vision. ... You set a prisoner free, but you discover the real prisoner was yourself.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Hurt, Pain, Memories

• Their pain [the injurer's pain at having injured you] and your pain create the point and counterpoint for the rhythm of reconciliation. When the beat of their pain is a response to the beat of yours, they have become truthful in their feelings...they have moved a step closer to a truthful reunion.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Forgiveness, Pain, Feelings

• Forgiving is an affair strictly between a victim and a victimizer. Everyone else should step aside...The worst wounds I ever felt were the ones people gave to my children. Wrong my kids, you wrong me. And my hurt qualifies me to forgive you. But only for the pain you caused me when you wounded them. My children alone are qualified to forgive you for what you did to them.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Forgiveness, Hurt, Pain

• When we forgive someone, we do not forget the hurtful act, as if forgetting came along with the forgiveness package, the way strings come with a violin. Begin with the basics. If you forget, you will not forgive at all. You can never forgive people for things you have forgotten about. You need to forgive precisely because you have not forgotten what someone did; your memory keeps the pain alive long after the hurt has stopped. Remembering is the storage of pain. It is why you need to be healed in the first place.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Hurt, Pain, Memories

• Forgiving is, first of all, a way of helping yourself to get free of the unfair pain somebody caused you.

  Lewis B. Smedes

  Pain, Forgiving, Way

  Lewis B. Smedes, Jeff Crosby (2007). “Days of Grace Through the Year”, p.237, InterVarsity Press

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