Harriet Lerner Quotes About Values

Quotes about: Values

• Many people value criticism in the early stage of a relationship, but become allergic to it over time. Remember this: No one can survive in a marriage (at least not happily) if they feel more judged than admired. Your partner won't make use of your constructive criticism if there's not a surrounding climate of admiration and respect.

  Harriet Lerner

  People, Criticism, Use

• While women once acquired relationship skills to "hook," "snare," or "catch" a husband who would provide access to economic security and social status, the position of contemporary women has not changed that radically. Much of our success still depends on our attunement to "male culture," our ability to please men, and our readiness to conform to the masculine values of our institutions.

  Harriet Lerner

  Husband, Women, Skills

  Harriet Lerner (2009). “The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships”, p.6, Harper Collins

• Relationships are most likely to fail when we don't address problems or hold our partner accountable for unfair or irresponsible behavior ... the ability to clarify our values, beliefs, and life goals--and then to keep our behavior congruent with them--is at the heart of a solid marriage.

  Harriet Lerner

  Heart, Goal, Addresses

  Harriet Lerner (2012). “Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up”, p.169, Penguin

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