Jessica Valenti Quotes About Sexuality

Quotes about: Sexuality

• Making women the sexual gatekeepers and telling men they just can't help themselves not only drives home the point that women's sexuality is unnatural, but also sets up a disturbing dynamic in which women are expected to be responsible for men's sexual behavior.

  Jessica Valenti

  Home, Men, Helping

  Jessica Valenti (2009). “The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women”, p.108, Seal Press

• Sex for pleasure, for fun, or even for building relationships is completely absent from our national conversation. Yet taking the joy out of sexuality is a surefire way to ensure not that young women won't have sex, but rather that they'll have it without pleasure.

  Jessica Valenti

  Sex, Fun, Joy

  Jessica Valenti (2009). “The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women”, p.43, Seal Press

• When women's sexuality is imagined to be passive or "dirty," it also means that men's sexuality is automatically positioned as aggressive and right-no matter what form it takes. And when one of the conditions of masculinity, a concept that is already so fragile in men's minds, is that men dissociate from women and prove their manliness through aggression, we're encouraging a culture of violence and sexuality that's detrimental to both men and women.

  Jessica Valenti

  Dirty, Mean, Men

  Jessica Valenti (2009). “The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women”, p.172, Seal Press

• Present-day American society-whether through pop culture, religion, or institutions-conflates sexuality and morality constantly. Idolizing virginity as a stand-in for women’s morality means that nothing else matters-not what we accomplish, not what we think, not what we care about and work for. Just if/how/whom we have sex with. That’s all.

  Jessica Valenti

  Sex, Mean, Thinking

  Jessica Valenti (2009). “The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women”, p.24, Seal Press

• I think it's important to let kids be kids and be cautious about accelerated sexuality as pressure to mature too quickly. My hackles go up when I see a teacher making kids feel like they are older, special, mature. Let kids be kids.

  Jessica Valenti

  Teacher, Kids, Thinking

  Source: therumpus.net

• Lately, I'm thinking a lot about, in parenting and in my writing, how to create a language about sexism in a way that is attractive and approachable to this age group. I can teach my daughter about not talking to strangers but I can't teach her about how to succeed in a sexist world or even how to exist as a body in a sexist world. I want to begin by asking girls what they want and why they want it? Interrogating that. If this is the sex life you want, what makes you think you want that? I imagine the only way to authentically get at sexuality is by asking those questions.

  Jessica Valenti

  Girl, Daughter, Writing

  Source: therumpus.net

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