Meghan O'Rourke Quotes - Page 2

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• One of the grubby truths about a loss is that you don't just mourn the dead person, you mourn the person you got to be when the lost one was alive. This loss might even be what affects you the most.

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  Loss, Lost Ones, Alive

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.140, Hachette UK

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• There is always tension in women's gymnastics between athleticism, grace, performance, and eros.

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  Gymnastics, Grace, Athleticism

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• Our minds are mysterious; our conscious brain is like a ship on a sea that is obscure to us.

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  Sea, Brain, Mind

  "Meghan O'Rourke: The Long Good-Bye". Interview with Jennifer Haupt, www.psychologytoday.com. April 26, 2011.

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• What's endlessly complicated in thinking about women's gymnastics is the way that vulnerability and power are threaded through the sport.

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  Sports, Gymnastics, Thinking

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• It's all too easy when talking about female gymnasts to fall into the trap of infantilizing them, spending more time worrying more about female vulnerability than we do celebrating female strength.

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  Fall, Talking, Worry

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• I live to collect information, and I am also a perfectionist.

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  Information, Perfectionist

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• One of the ideas I've clung to most of my life is that if I just try hard enough it will work out.

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  Ideas, Work Out, Trying

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.64, Penguin

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• But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone.

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  Grief, People, Feelings

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• Many Americans don't mourn in public anymore - we don't wear black, we don't beat our chests and wail.

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  Black, Beats, Mourn

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• I believe in the importance of individuality, but in the midst of grief I also find myself wanting connection - wanting to be reminded that the sadness I feel is not just mine but ours.

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  Grief, Believe, Sadness

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• With ferocity and extraordinary craft, Lizzie Harris has made a book of poems that resonates far beyond the personal stories it tells. Stop Wanting reveals, in every lyric, its author's profound metaphorical gifts. In its ironies and intensities, it brings to mind a writer like the young Sylvia Plath, though what is startling about Harris' s work is the way it combines those gifts with a muted, deft self-awareness. Most of all, these are wonderfully shaped, powerful, and surprising poems-a startling debut.

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  Powerful, Book, Self

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• My mother never liked Mother's Day. She thought it was a fake holiday dreamed up by Hallmark to commodify deep sentiments that couldn't be expressed with a card.

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  Mother, Holiday, Fake

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• Television has never known what to do with grief, which resists narrative: the dramas of grief are largely internal - for the bereaved, it is a chaotic, intense, episodic period, but the chaos is by and large subterranean, and easily appears static to the friendly onlooker who has absorbed the fact of loss and moved on.

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  Drama, Grief, Loss

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• And after my mother's death I became more open to and empathetic about other people's struggles and losses.

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  Mother, Struggle, Loss

  "Meghan O'Rourke: The Long Good-Bye". Interview with Jennifer Haupt, www.psychologytoday.com. April 26, 2011.

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• My mother died of metastatic colorectal cancer shortly before three P.M. on Christmas Day of 2008. I don't know the exact time of her death, because none of us thought to look at a clock for a while after she stopped breathing.

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  Mother, Cancer, Breathing

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.14, Penguin

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• Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona.

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  Grief, Disruption, Persona

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• Much of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you don’t seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)

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  Pain, Grief, Differences

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.80, Penguin

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• Suddenly it was fall, the season of death, the anniversary of things-going-to-hell.

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  Fall, Hell, Seasons

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• The people we most love do become a physical part of us, ingrained in our synapses, in the pathways where memories are created.

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  Memories, People, Pathways

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.83, Penguin

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• Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.

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  Relationship, Letting Go, Loss

  "Good Grief". www.newyorker.com. February 1, 2010.

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• A mother is beyond any notion of a beginning. That's what makes her a mother.

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  Mother, Notion

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.16, Penguin

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• But when my mother died, I found that I did not believe that she was gone.

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  Mother, Believe, Gone

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• 'Hamlet' is the best description of grief I've read because it dramatizes grief rather than merely describing it.

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  Grief, Description, Describing

  "The Long Goodbye" by Meghan O'Rourke, www.slate.com. March 12, 2009.

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• To mourn is to wonder at the strangeness that grief is not written all over your face in bruised hieroglyphics. And it's also to feel, quite powerfully, that you're not allowed to descend into the deepest fathom of your grief - that to do so would be taboo somehow.

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  Grief, Over You, Faces

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• 'Hamlet' is a play about a man whose grief is deemed unseemly.

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  Grief, Men, Play

  "The Long Goodbye" by Meghan O'Rourke, www.slate.com. March 12, 2009.

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