Barbara Coloroso Quotes

• If kids come to us from strong, healthy functioning families, it makes our job easier. If they do not come to us from strong, healthy, functioning families, it makes our job more important.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Inspirational, Family, Teacher

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• Encouraging a child means that one or more of the following critical life messages are coming through, either by word or by action: I believe in you, I trust you, I know you can handle this, You are listened to, You are cared for, You are very important to me

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Believe, Mean

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• When we use punishment, our children are robbed of the opportunity to develop their own inner discipline-the ability to act with integrity, wisdom, compassion, and mercy when there is no external force holding them accountable for what they do.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Integrity, Compassion

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• Our children are counting on us to provide two things: consistency and structure. Children need parents who say what they mean, mean what they say, and do what they say they are going to do.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Mean, Two

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• Compliant children are very easily led when they are young, because they thrive on approval and pleasing adults. They are just aseasily led in their teen years, because they still seek the same two things: approval and the pleasing their peers. Strong-willed children are never easily led by anybody--not by you, but also not by their peers. So celebrate your child's strength of will throughout the early years...and know that the independent thinking you are fostering will serve him well in the critical years to come.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Strong, Children, Independent

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• There's no problem so great it can't be solved. If it can't be solved, it's not a problem, it's reality.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Reality, Mindfulness, Problem

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• The beauty of empowering others is that your own power is not diminished in the process.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Leadership, Empowering, Empowerment

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• We need to encourage members of this next generation to become all that they can become, not try to force them to become what we want them to become. . . . You and I can't even begin to dream the dreams this next generation is going to dream, or answer the questions that will be put to them.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Dream, Trying, Needs

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• Our goal as a parent is to give life to our children's learning--to instruct, to teach, to help them develop self-discipline--an ordering of the self from the inside, not imposition from the outside. Any technique that does not give life to a child's learning and leave a child's dignity intact cannot be called discipline--it is punishment, no matter what language it is clothed in.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Self, Punishment

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• Because they are children and for no other reason they have dignity and worth simply because they are.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Dignity, Reason

  Barbara Coloroso (2010). “kids are worth it! Revised Edition: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline”, p.4, Harper Collins

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• If we parents accept that problems are an essential part of life's challenges, rather than reacting to every problem as if something has gone wrong with the universe that's supposed to be perfect, we can demonstrate serenity and confidence in problem solving for our kids.By telling them that we know they have a problem and we know they can solve it, we can pass on a realistic attitude as well as empower our children with self-confidence and a sense of their own worth.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Attitude, Kids

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• There is something profoundly satisfying about sharing a meal. Eating together, breaking bread together, is one of the oldest and most fundamentally unifying of human experiences.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Eating Together, Bread, Meals

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• Our children need to be able to see us take a stand for a value and against injustices, be those values and injustices in the family room, the boardroom, the classroom, or on the city streets.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Cities, Needs

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• The greatest part of each day, each year, each lifetime is made up of small, seemingly insignificant moments. Those moments may becooking dinner...relaxing on the porch with your own thoughts after the kids are in bed, playing catch with a child before dinner, speaking out against a distasteful joke, driving to the recycling center with a week's newspapers. But they are not insignificant, especially when these moments are models for kids.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Family, Children, Kids

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• I believe that if we are to survive as a planet, we must teach this next generation to handle their own conflicts assertively andnonviolently. If in their early years our children learn to listen to all sides of the story, use their heads and then their mouths, and come up with a plan and share, then, when they become our leaders, and some of them will, they will have the tools to handle global problems and conflict.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Believe, Years

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• Given the choice, children who don't want for anything will not save... We have an obligation as parents to give our children what they need. What they want we can give them as a special gift, or they can save their money for it.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Giving, Parent

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• There is no problem so great it cannot be solved.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Problem, No Problem

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• There is one thing you and I as parents cannot do, not do we want to do if we really think about it, and that's control our children's will--that spirit that lets them be themselves apart from you and me. They are not ours to possess, control, manipulate, or even to make mind.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Thinking, Parent

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• Every time a child organizes and completes a chore, spends some time alone without feeling lonely, loses herself in play for an hour, or refuses to go along with her peers in some activity she feels is wrong, she will be building meaning and a sense of worth for herself and harmony in her family.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Lonely, Children, Play

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• What is important for kids to learn is that no matter how much money they have, earn, win, or inherit, they need to know how to spend it, how to save it, and how to give it to others in need. This is what handling money is about, and this is why we give kids an allowance.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Kids, Winning

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• If you can't solve it, it's not a problem - it's reality.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Reality, Problem, Solve

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• Odors from decaying food wafting through the air when the door is opened, colorful mold growing between a wet gym uniform and thedamp carpet underneath, and the complete supply of bath towels scattered throughout the bedroom can become wonderful opportunities to help your teenager learn once again that the art of living in a community requires compromise, negotiation, and consensus.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Art, Teenager, Opportunity

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• The best time to start giving your children money is when they will no longer eat it. Basically, when they don't put it in their mouths, they can start putting it in their bank.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Children, Giving, Mouths

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• If you cannot solve it, it is not a problem - it is reality.

  Barbara Coloroso

  Reality, Problem, Solve

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