• I know when to say no and when to say yes. I take responsibility for my choices. The victim? She went somewhere else. The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more. But I need to continue to remember the key principles: boundaries, letting go, forgiveness after feeling my feelings—not before, self-expression, loving others but loving myself, too.

    Melody Beattie (2013). “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”, p.11, Hazelden Publishing