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• Many young women are less whole and androgynous than they were at age ten. They are more appearance-conscious and sex-conscious. They are quieter, more fearful of holding strong opinions, more careful what they say and less honest. They are more likely to second-guess themselves and to be self-critical. They are bigger worriers and more effective people pleasers. They are less likely to play sports, love math and science and plan on being president. They hide their intelligence. Many must fight for years to regain all the territory they lost.

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  Love, Sports, Strong

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.238, Penguin

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• Courage has become Raiders of the Lost Ark, or riding in spaceships, killing people, taking enormous physical risks. To me, the kind of courage that's really interesting is someone whose spouse has Alzheimer's and yet manages to wake up every morning and be cheerful with that person and respectful of that person and find things to enjoy even though their day is very, very difficult. That kind of courage is really undervalued in our culture.

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  Courage, Morning, Alzheimer's

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• Telling stories never fails to produce good in the universe.

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  Stories, Failing, Produce

  Mary Pipher (2003). “The Middle of Everywhere”, p.159, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

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• In all the years I've been a therapist, I've yet to meet one girl who likes her body.

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  Girl, Years, Anorexia

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.165, Penguin

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• It's important for parents to watch for trouble and convey to their daughters that, if it comes, they are strong enough to deal with it. Parents who send their [adolescent] daughters the message that they'll be overwhelmed by problems aren't likely to hear what's really happening.

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  Daughter, Strong, Parent

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.258, Penguin

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• Parents wrongly assume that their daughters live in a world similar to the one they experienced as adolescents. They are dead wrong. Their daughters live in a media-drenched world floded with junk values. As girls turn from their parents, they turn to this world for guidance about how to be an adult.

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  Girl, Daughter, Media

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.56, Penguin

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• Teenage girls are extremists who see the world in black-and- white terms, missing shades of gray. Life is either marvelous or notworth living. School is either pure torment or is going fantastically. Other people are either great or horrible, and they themselves are wonderful or pathetic failures. One day a girl will refer to herself as "the goddess of social life" and the next day she'll regret that she's the "ultimate in nerdosity.

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  Girl, Teenage, Regret

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• The protected place in space and time that we once called childhood has grown shorter.

  Mary Pipher

  Space, Childhood, Time And Space

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• Adolescence is a time when children are supposed to move away from parents who are holding firm and protective behind them. When the parents disconnect, the children have no base to move away from or return to. They aren't ready to face the world alone. With divorce, adolescents feel abandoned, and they are outraged at that abandonment. They are angry at both parents for letting them down. Often they feel that their parents broke the rules and so now they can too.

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  Children, Moving, Divorce

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• True freedom has more to do with following the North Star than going whichever way the wind blows. Sometimes it seems like freedom is blowing with the winds of the day, but that kind of freedom is really an illusion. It turns your boat in circles. Freedom is sailing toward your dreams.

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  Dream, Stars, Blow

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.229, Penguin

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• Adolescents are travelers, far from home with no native land, neither children nor adults. They are jet-setters who fly from one country to another with amazing speed. Sometimes they are four years old, an hour later they are twenty-five. They don't really fit anywhere. There's a yearning for place, a search for solid ground.

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  Country, Children, Home

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.44, Penguin

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• Something dramatic happens to girls in early adolescence. Just as planes and ships disappear mysteriously into the Bermuda Triangle, so do the selves of girls go down in droves.

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  Girl, Self, Triangles

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.14, Penguin

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• Most parents of adolescent girls have the goal of keeping their daughters safe while they grow up and explore the world. The parents' job is to protect, the daughter's job is to explore.

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  Girl, Daughter, Jobs

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• Girls who stay true to themselves manage to find some way to respect the parts of themselves that are spiritual. They work for the betterment of the world. Girls who act from their false selves are often cynical about making the world a better place. They have given up hope. Only when they reconnect with the parts of themselves that are alive and true will they again have the energy to take on the culture and fight to save the planet.

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  Girl, Spiritual, Fighting

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• I want to write. I have always wanted to write. I do not care it I am not good at it. I just want to try.

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  Writing, Trying, Care

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• We tend to value military heroes and Schwarzenegger types who are physically courageous. The heroics of doing the right thing every day even when it is dull and inconvenient are undervalued.

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  Military, Hero, Dull

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• Girls face two major sexual issues in America in the 1990s: One is an old issue of coming to terms with their own sexuality, defining a sexual self, making sexual choices and learning to enjoy sex. The other issue concerns the dangers girls face of being sexually assaulted. By late adolescence, most girls today either have been traumatized or know girls who have. They are fearful of males even as they are trying to develop intimate relations with them.

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  Girl, Sex, Self

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• Intelligent resistance keeps the true self alive

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  Intelligent, Self, Alive

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.37, Penguin

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• Traditionally parents have wondered what their teens were doing, but now teens are much more likely to be doing things that can get them killed.

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  Parent, Teens, Adolescence

  Mary Pipher (2005). “Reviving Ophelia”, p.21, Penguin

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• If there's a therapist who wants a writing project, I think there's a need for a book about how the culture affects the mental health of boys.

  Mary Pipher

  Book, Writing, Boys

  Source: www.guernicamag.com

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• Language imparts identity, meaning, and perspective to our human condition. Writers are either polluters or part of the cleanup.

  Mary Pipher

  Perspective, Identity, Language

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• All geniuses born women are lost to the public good.

  Mary Pipher

  Genius, Lost, Born

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