Be The Peace You Wish To See In The World!
To change a habit, make a conscious decision, then act out the new behavior.
We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.
We've got to put a lot of money into changing behavior.
We may think there is willpower involved, but more likely... change is due to want power. Wanting the new addiction more than the old one. Wanting the new me in preference to the person I am now.
Knowing that one is always capable of change, the second step lies in making the decision to change. Change does not occur by merely willing it anymore than behavior changes simply through insight.
How I feel about and behave toward myself is the basic determinant of most of my behavior. If I improve my self-regard, I will find that dozens of behaviors change automatically. If, for example, I increase my feelings of self-competence, I will probably be less defensive, less angered by criticism, less devastated if I do not get a raise, less anxious when I come to work, better able to make decisions, and more able to appreciate and praise other people.
The 'self-image' is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior.
I don't think people realize, when they're just getting started on an eating disorder or even when they're in the grip of one, that it is not something that you just "get over." For the vast majority of eating-disordered people, it is something that will haunt you for the rest of your life. You may change your behavior, change your beliefs about yourself and your body, give up that particular way of coping in the world. You may learn, as I have, that you would rather be a human than a human's thin shell. You may get well. But you never forget.
The most dramatic instances of directed behavior change and "mind control" are not the consequence of exotic forms of influence, such as hypnosis, psychotropic drugs, or "brainwashing," but rather the systematic manipulation of the most mundane aspects of human nature over time in confining settings.
How do you change your behavior? Change what you worship
More often than not, the belief that you are bad contributes to the "bad" behavior. Change and learning occur most readily when you (a) recognize that an error has occurred and (b) develop a strategy for correcting the problem. An attitude of self-love and relaxation facilitates this, whereas guilt often interferes.
You don't become a new person by changing your behavior; you discover who you are in Christ and your behavior changes accordingly
Only when you find the courage to say something to someone that might influence a change in your behavior, does that behavior change.
Start with changing behaviors, not mindsets. It is much easier to 'act your way into new thinking' than to 'think your way into new actions.' Recurring and consistent performance results from behavior change will lead to lasting changes in the way people feel, think, and believe in the long run.
You're a grown up, and you get to decide what behaviors affect you for five minutes versus what behaviors change you as a person.
I trust that no loving thought goes unnoticed, even when I do not see immediate gratitude or behavior changes in the other person.
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