Frank Pittman Quotes

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• The guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man. The end product of child-raising is not the child but the parent.

  Frank Pittman

  Children, Dad, Father

  "Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity". Book by Frank Pittman, www.today.com. 1993.

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• Bad marriages don't cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Cheating, Husband And Wife

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• Love is not something people feel, but something people try to express no matter how they feel.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Love Is, People

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• The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must
  be total, it must be permanent, and it must be equal.

  Frank Pittman

  Anniversary, Marriage, Wedding

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• Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man.

  Frank Pittman

  Men, Perfect Parents, Being A Parent

  "Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity". Book by Frank Pittman, www.today.com. 1993.

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• The more things we can laugh about, the more alive we become: The more things we can laugh about together, the more connected we become.

  Frank Pittman

  Love, Positive, Marriage

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• Fidelity is the single most important element in solidly enduring marriages.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Important, Elements

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• Marriage, like a submarine, is only safe if you get all the way inside.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Safe, Way

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• Becoming Father the Nurturer rather than just Father the Provider enables a man to fully feel and express his humanity and his masculinity. Fathering is the most masculine thing a man can do.

  Frank Pittman

  Father, Men, Humanity

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• Happy people learn that happiness, like sweat, is a by-product of activity.

  Frank Pittman

  Sweat, People, Activity

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• Character, not passion keeps marriages together long enough to do their work of raising children into mature, responsible, productive citizens.

  Frank Pittman

  Children, Passion, Character

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• Our ability to fall in love requires enough comfort with our masculinity to join it with someone's femininity and feel enhanced. .. . If our mother made us feel secure and proud in our masculinity, then we want to find that again in our wife. If we are really comfortable with our mother, we can even marry a woman who is a friend rather than an adversary, and form a true partnership.

  Frank Pittman

  Mother, Falling In Love, Wife

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• Common courtesy plays a big role in happy marriages. People who are permanently married are polite to one another. They don't want to hurt one another's feelings, and they don't try to make the other one feel humiliated. People who are married for life are extremely kind to one another.

  Frank Pittman

  Relationship, Hurt, Play

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• Fathers who compete hard with their kids are monstrous. The father, for a throw-away victory, is sacrificing the very heart of hischild's sense of being good enough. He may believe he is making his son tough, as he was made tough by a similarly contending father, but he is only making his child desperate and mean like himself. Fathers must let their sons (and daughters) have their victories.

  Frank Pittman

  Daughter, Children, Father

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• Infidelity flows from a belief that women have the power to make you feel like
  a man if you only find a woman that thinks you're perfect; if you can only
  find a woman that you haven't hurt or disappointed yet.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Hurt, Men

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• Once women invented farming, and began to keep and breed animals, they discovered the crucial function of the rooster and the henhouse. Fathers suddenly gained a function, and could do what only women had been able to do for all those millions of years--point at a child and say, "That is my son," "That is my daughter." Patriarchy quickly followed, beginning about five thousand years ago; a very short time in the development of our species, but covering all of recorded history.

  Frank Pittman

  Daughter, Children, Father

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• To insult a friend implies that you respect his masculinity enough to know he can take it without acting like a crybaby. The swapping of insults, like the fighting between brothers, becomes the seal of the male bonding.

  Frank Pittman

  Brother, Fighting, Acting

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• In considering the ledger equal, understand the greatest gift you have given your parents is the opportunity to raise you. The things a child gets from parents can't compare to the things a parent gets from raising a child. Only by experiencing this can you understand the degree to which children give meaning to parents' lives.

  Frank Pittman

  Children, Opportunity, Giving

  "How to Manage Mom & Dad" by Frank Pittman, www.psychologytoday.com. November 1, 1994.

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• Some parents were awful back then and are awful still. The process of raising you didn't turn them into grown-ups. Parents who were clearly imperfect can be helpful to you. As you were trying to grow up despite their fumbling efforts, you had to develop skills and tolerances other kids missed out on. Some of the strongest people I know grew up taking care of inept, invalid, or psychotic parents--but they know the parents weren't normal, healthy, or whole.

  Frank Pittman

  Growing Up, Kids, Skills

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• Marriage isn't supposed to make you happy -
  it's supposed to make you married.

  Frank Pittman

  Marriage, Married, Make You Happy

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• We long for our father. We wear his clothes, and actually try to fill his shoes. . . . We hang on to him, begging him to teach ushow to do whatever is masculine, to throw balls or be in the woods or go see where he works. . . . We want our fathers to protect us from coming too completely under the control of our mothers. . . . We want to be seen with Dad, hanging out with men and doing men things.

  Frank Pittman

  Mother, Dad, Father

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• Fathering makes a man, whatever his standing in the eyes of the world, feel strong and good and important, just as he makes his child feel loved and valued.

  Frank Pittman

  Strength, Strong, Children

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• The men who are messing up their lives, their families, and their world in their quest to feel man enough are not exercising truemasculinity, but a grotesque exaggeration of what they think a man is. When we see men overdoing their masculinity, we can assume that they haven't been raised by men, that they have taken cultural stereotypes literally, and that they are scared they aren't being manly enough.

  Frank Pittman

  Taken, Exercise, Men

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• The problem is simply this: no one can feel like CEO of his or her life in the presence of the people who toilet trained her and spanked him when he was naughty. We may have become Masters of the Universe, accustomed to giving life and taking it away, casually ordering people into battle or out of their jobs . . . and yet we may still dirty our diapers at the sound of our mommy's whimper or our daddy's growl.

  Frank Pittman

  Jobs, Dirty, Naughty

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• Every boy was supposed to come into the world equipped with a father whose prime function was to be our father and show us how tobe men. He can escape us, but we can never escape him. Present or absent, dead or alive, real or imagined, our father is the main man in our masculinity.

  Frank Pittman

  Father, Real, Boys

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