Etiquette Quotes - Page 6

• Select companions who are striving for enlightenment. They all have their imperfections, certainly, but at least their attention is moving in the right direction.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Moving, Buddhism

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• To know that these are people who for a moment, in glory, in light, were true warriors, and you had the chance to associate with them, to live with them, to share with them, words and moments of power - this is the nature of spiritual study.

  Frederick Lenz

  Spiritual, Buddhist, Buddhism

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• If we don't get violent with ourselves, castigate ourselves, ostracize ourselves and excommunicate ourselves because we didn't live up to the standards we set down for ourselves, then maybe we don't have to do that with other people.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, People

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• Your mantrum is the awareness of the dream - to enjoy and appreciate and have gratitude for all; neither to condemn nor to liberate, but to observe.

  Frederick Lenz

  Dream, Gratitude, Buddhist

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• You need to search your awareness and consider the limitless possibilities of existence in all things and not be so narrow-minded in your self-discovery.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Discovery

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• The pejorative term "political correctness" was adapted to express disapproval of the enlargement of etiquette to cover all people, in spite of this being a principle to which all Americans claim to subscribe.

  Judith Martin

  People, Political, Principles

  Judith Martin (2003). “Star-Spangled Manners: In Which Miss Manners Defends American Etiquette (For a Change)”, p.32, W. W. Norton & Company

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• Shame is the proper reaction when one has purposefully violated the accepted behavior of society. Inflicting it is etiquette's response when its rules are disobeyed. The law has all kinds of nasty ways of retaliating when it is disregarded, but etiquette has only a sense of social shame to deter people from treating others in ways they know are wrong. So naturally Miss Manners wants to maintain the sense of shame. Some forms of discomfort are fully justified, and the person who feels shame ought to be dealing with removing its causes rather than seeking to relieve the symptoms.

  Judith Martin

  Law, People, Missing

  Judith Martin (1996). “Miss Manners Rescues Civilization: From Sexual Harassment, Frivolous Lawsuits, Dissing, and Other Lapses in Civility”, Crown

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• The etiquette question that troubles so many fastidious people New Year's Day is: How am I ever going to face those people again?

  Judith Martin

  New Year, Years, People

  Judith Martin (2011). “Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior (Freshly Updated)”, p.780, W. W. Norton & Company

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• The teacher has nothing to do with people who use their mental powers to block the enlightenment of others. These people lack control. What can you teach someone who lacks control?

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Buddhist, Block

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• Do not envy others. If someone gets a larger piece of cake, be happy for them. They'll get fat and you'll stay thin.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Cake

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• How do you become enlightened? Have fun, meditate, don't take yourself too seriously, brush between incarnations and have a good teacher.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Buddhist, Fun

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• If you have humility, you are willing to undertake anything to spread the dharma.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Humility, Buddhism

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• Some people like a harsh teacher. They feel the demands make them learn more quickly. Some like a gentle teacher because they feel that makes them learn more quickly.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Buddhist, Buddhism

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• Flaky devotionalism, bowing and scraping and sucking up to the teacher is very phony. It is counterproductive to enlightenment and spiritual development. What is necessary is mutual respect.

  Frederick Lenz

  Spiritual, Teacher, Buddhist

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• The more moral you pretend to be, the less moral you are; the less moral you try to be, the more moral you are.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Trying

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• Without humility, all spiritual progress stops.

  Frederick Lenz

  Spiritual, Buddhist, Humility

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• It takes tremendous self-restraint on the part of the student not to want to monopolize the teacher's attention, to live a very controlled life and a happy life, and of course, be dedicated to the cause.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Buddhist, Buddhism

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• Studying with a teacher doesn't simply mean going to an occasional seminar or Zen retreat. It means fully applying yourself to what the teacher says, most of which is not verbal.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Buddhist, Mean

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• Don't judge others. Always be open to them. Avoid the cult mentality, you know, the super-slick, "I'm superior because I meditate, because I'm on the pathway to enlightenment," the subtle ego nonsense, terrible trap.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Judging

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• If one thinks of an enlightened person in a negative way, as it hits their aura, it returns very strongly.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Thinking

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• You need to have the humility to accept your limitations as long as they're there, and have the humility to accept their end when that time comes.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Humility, Buddhism

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• Any individual is capable of realizing the truth at any time. No tradition is necessary, no chain, no lineage. Once you have realized the truth, once you have become consciousness itself, then you go beyond all such distinctions.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Lineage

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• Simplify your life and your mind. Think more of infinity and less of yourself.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Buddhism, Thinking

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• As a student of enlightenment your attitude should not be to become enlightened. It should be to learn.

  Frederick Lenz

  Buddhist, Attitude, Buddhism

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• A private should preserve a respectful attitude toward his superiors, and should seldom or never proceed so far as to offer suggestions to his general in the field. If the battle is not being conducted to suit him, it is better for him to resign. By the etiquette of war, it is permitted to none below the rank of newspaper correspondent to dictate to the general in the field.

  Mark Twain

  Attitude, War, Advice

  Mark Twain (1992). “Twain: Collected Tales, Sketches, Speeches, and Essays, Volume 1: 1852-1890”, p.1015, Library of America

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