Abusive Quotes - Page 4

• Let's start working towards wellness, a healing in our community, a healing in relationships, so male and female can finally sit down and understand that that young boy or young girl saw behavior exhibited by their parents that was negative and abusive and they're going to pass it on.

  Pam Grier

  Girl, Healing, Boys

  "Actress Pam Grier". "The Tavis Smiley Show", www.pbs.org. May 13, 2010.

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• Cato, being scurrilously treated by a low and vicious fellow, quietly said to him, "A contest between us is very unequal, for thou canst bear ill language with ease, and return it with pleasure; but to me it is unusual to hear, and disagreeable to speak it." There are none more abusive to others than they that lie most open to it themselves; but the humor goes round, and he that laughs at me today will have somebody to laugh at him tomorrow.

  Seneca the Younger

  Lying, Laughing, Return

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• The reason I gained so much weight in the first place and the reason I had such a sorry history of abusive relationships with men was I just needed approval so much. I needed everyone to like me, because I didn't like myself much.

  Oprah Winfrey

  Sorry, Men, Weight

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• People think that if [their abusive] parent apologizes, he'll turn into the person they needed him to be. He won't. An apology might help, but you can change your life without one.

  Robin Quivers

  Apology, Thinking, People

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• The child welfare system - devised and run by liberal social workers, psychologists, and judges. . .Treats incompetent or abusive parents as its clients, and only secondarily considers the needs and well-being of the children involved.

  Mona Charen

  Running, Children, Judging

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• Because adoption meets the needs of children so successfully, and because there have long been waiting lists of couples hoping to adopt babies and children, it would seem that the solution for abused or neglected kids was obvious. But not to the do-gooders. To remove a child from an abusive parent, sever the parent's parental rights, and permit the child to be adopted by a couple who would give the child a loving home began to seem too 'judgmental.'

  Mona Charen

  Baby, Couple, Children

  Mona Charen (2006). “Do-Gooders: How Liberals Hurt Those They Claim to Help and the Rest of Us”, Sentinel

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• There's so much going on, with child abuse, not having the right relationships and being in abusive relationships, that play into her, and that energy was constantly in my body for a month. I was the lead character and it was very, very intense.

  Tinsel Korey

  Children, Character, Play

  Source: collider.com

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• I have no perspective as regards my work. One reason I put out records and books is people respond to it, and it enables you to actually see the work more clearly. It's a form of therapy for me. Sometimes abusive therapy.

  Moby

  Book, People, Perspective

  "'The Humility That Comes From Being Hated': Moby Interviewed". Interview with Stephen Dalton, thequietus.com. May 9, 2011.

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• Yeah we're not together anymore. She has got - she has got a new boyfriend now. They just moved into together. And I've heard rumors that he is abusive, which makes you want to go over there with a baseball bat. And then blame it on her boyfriend.

  Anthony Jeselnik

  Baseball, Rumor, Together

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• People come to a teacher to learn self-discovery. A teacher who just wants to keep you on a string forever, the god-guru concept, a teacher like that is very abusive. Those people are actually usually taking their students energy.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Discovery, Self

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• Many television weather-women were one abusive parent away from prostitution.

  Dov Davidoff

  Weather, Parent, Television

  FaceBook post by Dov Davidoff from Feb 03, 2012

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• The people who know God well - the mystics, the hermits, those who risk everything to find God - always meet a lover, not a dictator. God is never found to be an abusive father or a tyrannical mother, but always a lover who is more than we dared hope for. How different than the "account manager" that most people seem to worship. God is a lover who receives and forgives everything.

  Richard Rohr

  Mother, Father, People

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• The No. 1 reason women stay in abusive relationships - because they're not able to take care of themselves financially. It's also the No. 1 reason why women go back.

  Kerry Washington

  Care, Able, Reason Why

  Source: www.sheknows.com

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• Sociologists and historians have avoided looking for the family sources of wars and social violence. Whenever a group produces murderers, the early parental relationship must have been abusive and neglectful. Yet this elementary truth has not even begun to be considered in historical research; just stating that poor mothering lies behind wars seems blasphemous.

  Lloyd deMause

  War, Lying, Historical

  "The Emotional Life of Nations". Book by Lloyd deMause, 2002.

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• A lot of people who are involved in self-discovery lose energy to abusive teachers, to abusive friends and to entities, non-physical beings.

  Frederick Lenz

  Teacher, Discovery, Self

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• Power properly understood is nothing but the ability to achieve
  purpose... one of the great problems of history is that the concepts of love and power have usually been contrasted as opposites --- polar opposites --- so that love is identified with a resignation of power, and power with a denial of love... What is needed is a realization that power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.

  Martin Luther King, Jr.

  Love Is, Opposites, Justice

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• The wise determine from the gravity of the case; the irritable, from sensibility to oppression; the high minded, from disdain and indignation at abusive power in unworthy hands.

  Edmund Burke

  Wise, Hands, Oppression

  Edmund Burke (1807). “Works: 1st American from the Last London Ed”, p.47

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• anybody who has anything abusive to say of women, whether ancient or modern, can command a vast public in the popular press and a ready agreement from the average publisher.

  Dora Russell

  Agreement, Average, Ancient

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• I have problems with a lot of photography, particularly street photography and photojournalism - objectifying the other, finding the contempt and exoticism that you might feel within yourself or toward yourself and projecting it out to others. There can be an abusive power to photography, too.

  Barbara Kruger

  Photography, Might, Objectifying

  Interview with Christopher Bollen, www.interviewmagazine.com. February 13, 2013.

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• The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are:
  You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing.
  I can easily convince other people that you're the one who is messed up.
  As long as I'm calm, you can't call anything I do abusive, no matter how cruel.
  I know exactly how to get under your skin.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Attitude, Crazy, Long

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.85, Penguin

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• It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative attitudes toward females, but men who have abusive fathers do; the disrespect that abusive men show their female partners and their daughters is often absorbed by their sons.
  So while a small number of abusive men do hate women, the great majority exhibit a more subtle-though often quite pervasive-sense of superiority or contempt toward females, and some don't show any obvious signs of problems with women at all until they are in a serious relationship.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Daughter, Mother, Attitude

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• My mother was physically and emotionally abusive. My father was an extremely cold man.

  S. E. Hinton

  Mother, Father, Men

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• Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: “When he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty face, he sets about washing the mirror.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Morning, Dirty, Mirrors

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.126, Penguin

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• I was a young feminist in the '70s. Feminism saved my life. It gave me a life. But I saw how so much of what people were saying was not matching up with what they were doing. For example, we were talking about sister solidarity, and women were putting each other down. We were talking about standing up for our rights, and women weren't leaving abusive relationships with men. There were just so many disconnects.

  Eve Ensler

  Men, Rights, Talking

  "The Big Idea: Eve Ensler". Interview with Suzanne Koven, therumpus.net. June 12, 2013.

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• I can't stand to watch anything that I'm in. I tear it apart. The worst thing you can do is leave me alone and let me watch what I'm in. It's abusive.

  Elias Koteas

  Leave Me Alone, Tears, Watches

  Interview with Sean O'Neal, www.avclub.com. March 29, 2011.

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